by David Scott Klajic
Get an Annulment?
The Presbyterian Church we had been attending proved to be too far for us and our little growing family. So, although it freaked me out, my wife asked me if I was OK with attending at the local Catholic Church. I was in another faith waning slump, so I figured it would be fine.
It is important to understand that I was married to a real-life woman who had her own spiritual journey to go through. You cannot be in a serious marriage and live your inner life in a vacuum. She was seeking something too, and we were both broken up about my dad. She asked me if I would be willing to speak to the priest there about an annulment (from my first marriage) for her sake. I figured
“I don’t believe in them anyway, so why not?”
It was during those conversations with the priest that 3 related things came up:
- The Catholic Church acknowledges the apostolic succession of the Orthodox Church,
- This meant my baptism and chrismation as an infant made me Orthodox, and
- There was no need for an annulment because no Orthodox can marry a heterodox outside the church and especially without dispensation.
A technicality? Sure. But what did it mean for me, personally?
For the first time in my life, I felt that what might have seemed like a series of quirky coincidences to any rational, scientific minded guy like me was no coincidence at all. Those that know me as almost Spock-like in my approach to understanding phenomenon will know how out of character it is for me to write—I believe having me baptized and chrismated as an infant was my father’s gift to me from beyond the grave. I cannot prove it, so don’t ask me to.
For a brief moment, I was considering converting to the Eastern Catholic church, so I could practice the rite given to me at birth, while remaining in communion with my wife. In fact, I attended RCIA (Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults) for a bit and my wife and I even had our marriage “convalidated” by the Catholic priest. I attended a liturgy at a Ruthenian Catholic Church. I was under the impression after going to confession with the priest there that I was now, Eastern Catholic.
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I am an evangelical Christian with a keen interest in Eastern Orthodoxy. I have been following these posts and have to say that I am rather surprised that this rather convoluted life-story is being shared as a model journey to the Ancient faith. It is also rather perplexing why so many conversions to Orthodoxy are not from irreligious or non-Christian backgrounds, but from those who already had Christian faith. This is even true in Russia, where I live, and where Protestants represent 0.5% of the population.
regnavit, nothing necessarily ‘model’ about this journey – it is simply the account of one person’s conversion. These stories, model or not, speak powerfully to individuals, and while this one may not say much to you, it is speaking volumes to Church of Christ members (by the feedback and inquiries we are getting).
And it is true that many are from other Christian confessions, but in many areas where non-Christians are being converted they don’t write up their journey for us. Since we are a volunteer group, with no support or backing from anyone but our readers, we take what we can get. Don’t assume it isn’t happening though – this is just the low hanging fruit of evangelism, and therefore of our ability to publish it.
There was no need for an annulment because no Orthodox can marry a heterodox outside the church and especially without dispensation.
True. But Catholics shouldn’t really be involved at all. They should just remarry people within their own denomination with clear instructions on the differences (which are non-trival).
I think Catholics are playing with fire here. Basically, unity at any doctrinal price. The reality is that the RC and EO (or even Byzantine, but this seems deliberately gray) now have different views of marriage (e.g., divorce, birth control). Catholics should acknowledge this and quit trying to square the circle.
I am new to considering as a now single mom post a very abusive manipulative and controlling relationship where I was even conditioned and manipulated with huge dishonesty during the dating relationship which convoluted my decision making process and led to the marriage to begin with therefore dealing with a very devastating divorce which has caused me to question with every fiber of my being what this means for my faith and commitments with God so needless to say I am hurting tremendously and struggling so I prayer multiple times a day for answers, understanding, and to continue to give my heart to God trusting only him for the healing of my heart and all my brokenness in coping with all this so I say all that to say in my morning studies everyday I dedicate a portion of my time to researching these matters, these articles continue to pop up in my research and are very much helping me. I just wanted put that out there since there seemed to be a thought that they weren’t helpful to help address this. Thank you.
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